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Communication

The Two Currencies of Relationships

Every good relationship contains two things: intimacy and mutual service. I don't just mean romantic relationships; whenever you find a relationship valuable, it is because you're getting at least one of those two needs met by that relationship. When you find a relationship hard to sustain, or damaging, it's because it fails to provide (or provides negative and damaging forms of) these two qualities.

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Technofuturism

Asymmetric Intimacy

One of the most novel and under-considered realities of the internet age is the extent to which it has allowed for the creation of heretofore unprecedented types of relationships. Asymmetric intimacy--one of these new types--is about the way that you run across something and think to yourself, "[Person who I've never met] would love this." Or the way that you find yourself reading the words of a person you've never said a word to and getting that jolt of someone understands. Or the way that you know that someone who has no idea who you are is really into this television program and probably watching it now. Or the way that you see an object and you think that "[Person I'd love to meet] has one of those".

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