The only religions I find worth anything are those that soften people. This is a thing I’d felt for a while, and something I’m sure someone else has put into words before, but when it finally occurred to me it was something of a revelation.Standard
One of the subtler but more important things that has changed in my life is that I’ve stopped believing my thoughts. It’s not that I can’t think. No, I’m not saying I'm no longer able to productively puzzle through hard problems — if anything I’ve gotten better at that. What I mean is that I’m much less prone to identify with and believe in my thoughts.Standard
There’s an old Buddhist story about an eager student asking the Zen master to distill the core teachings down to their very essence. The student was expecting a few dozen words that he’d not understand, but instead that master said simply, “An appropriate response.”Standard
If we cede all moral theory, any notion of spiritual or religious rewards or justifications, or any through-going vision of philosophy, is there a rational case to be made for something like the Golden Rule, most often rendered in English as: "Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you"?Standard
"In retrospect, it was a bad idea." "One day we'll look back at this and laugh." We all understand that our views on things are not fixed forever. That looking back on things with some critical distance from our actions we'll likely see more clearly what was going on and what the wiser course of action would have been.Standard
Matthieu Ricard's Happiness: A Guide to Developing Life's Most Important Skill is probably the most important book in my life. No work has ever influenced so many aspects of my life or caused me to see the world so differently. Were there only one book that I could take with my to a desert island, I think this would very likely be it.Standard
Everywhere you look, especially as a teenager, the world is full of others. Of people "not like me." And though teenagers feel this most intensely, few do not feel it regularly.