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Decreasing Fear by Increasing Trust

The thing about fear is that you feel it. Every part of your body is animated when you're afraid. There's a sound reason for this: you're probably scared because you're in danger. You're probably in danger because something bigger, stronger, or more powerful than you is threatening. And in the face of this threat you'd probably benefit from being ready to fight or flee. So fear is there for you: tensing your muscles, putting everything on high alert.

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Deep Honesty and Machismo

I think that one of the hardest things in the world is to be honest. We all give lip-service to the value of honesty. We all like to think that we don't lie and that therefore we're being honest. But there's a large difference between being honest and refraining from lying. One of the clearest examples of the point is what I think of as the "confrontational masculine style".

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