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Communication

The Two Currencies of Relationships

Every good relationship contains two things: intimacy and mutual service. I don't just mean romantic relationships; whenever you find a relationship valuable, it is because you're getting at least one of those two needs met by that relationship. When you find a relationship hard to sustain, or damaging, it's because it fails to provide (or provides negative and damaging forms of) these two qualities.

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Communication

The Case for “Hashtag Activism”

I’ve never seen myself as an activist.  I was born on third and spent a lot of my life thinking I’d hit a triple. As I’ve started to learn about privilege — all the benefits I receive in the society I live because I’m a white, able-bodied cis-gender heterosexual male who learned English as his first language and who has never had any serious bouts of mental illness or hard financial times — I’ve started to think more seriously about why I’ve never been an activist.

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Communication

What It Means to Show Up

It means different things to different people to "show up." One doesn't need to look hard to find the disparities. The mother "playing with her kids" while she's frantically typing out emails on her phone. The father who's at the soccer game but can't remove the phone from his ear. The friend who makes it to your dinner party but takes no interest in your other guests. It goes on forever.

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Communication

Talking About the Weather to Gain Trust

When I think back on the things that I believed as a self-assured young twenty-something, one of the more glaringly dumb ideas that comes to mind was my distaste for "small talk." I even wrote an essay on this site pretty clearly (and aggressively) elaborating my reasons. Surely, there was some merit to it — even today I can find constant discussion of the weather, sporting events, or other recent news, kind of dull — but it was blind to a whole other facet of reality.

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Communication

Culture Is A Series of Lossy Compression Algorithms

Compression algorithms are all around you in a modern digital life. But you may not actually know what they are, so let me explain: raw data taken from the world is rarely very efficiently packed. So to save file size and computational sanity, most data is compressed. JPEG is an image compression format — it takes raw information about what color each pixel of a photograph is and packs it more efficiently. MPEG does this same basic thing for video, MP3 does music, and ZIP can be used on any kind of data.

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